
It has been said that the first impression/experience ends up being the most impactful, thus the saying, “the first cut is the deepest.” This is no different when it relates to spending the first meditation retreat with Ashin Sayadaw U Tejaniya (SUT), as this was the starting point in my confidence in this ” SOM method.”
But first, let’s begin from the beginning.
I don’t remember when was my first retreat@SOM. It must have been something like 5 years ago or more or something. But before that, a little bit of history.
Prior to going for the first retreat@SOM, I have had the good fortune of discussing with a Buddhist friend who has been to SOM previously. Being a ‘cautious’ person that I am, I have had several discussions with this person - whom we’ll address as “SC” from this point onwards, as I have not sought his permission to reveal his name - even though I don’t think he’ll mind, but it’s still best to respect someone’s privacy. I’m eternally grateful to SC for the many discussions and sharing that we have had.
Even prior to these discussions, both of us have done another Burmese method of meditation, which, we’ll call “the old method,” - so as to maintain the spirit of not discrediting any tradition. In my case, I have gone for several retreats over something like 10 years, I think. Having done this “old method” before, both of us have found some “flaws” in this tradition (which we have also shared), and have an idea of what the “Buddha’s meditation” on “self-discovery” should be. Plus, in my case, having had some insightful understanding after reading Eckhart Tolle’s book “A New Earth”, it further reinforced my confidence in SOM’s method, as the messages in the book resonate very strongly with me, as the heart/mind finds so much similarities in both the teachings. Each time we discussed, I felt more and more that the SOM method is the “right” method.
And thus it was that the first retreat came to be … (Note: This was just the first of three retreats with SUT.)
The first retreat was for only 2 weeks, as my initial take was just to get the feel of the method, and hopefully end up with a better understanding of this method, and go back again later, should the situation warrants it. However, it ended up with more than just an “initial feel,” as the experiences there, and with Sayadaw’s guidance, it further deepened my faith in the “SOM Method.”
During the initial first two days of the retreat, as usual, the mind was affected by the hindrances of restlessness and sleepiness. But interestingly, when compared to the “old method,” this time, the mind was more accepting of what was happening or has just transpired. In the “old method” the mind will be ‘cursing’ - “another battle has been lost,” “time wasted instead of ‘meditating,’” etc. It was also during the first few days, that the “pain-phobia” (which I’ve also informed Sayadaw) began. It got aggravated because I have also broken my knee cap from a motorcycle accident. Initially, the mind reacted as it did in the past, i.e. with aversion/dosa - so what else is new with so many years of conditioning. However, later on, during one of the sitting sessions, instead of the earlier re-action of reacting with aversion, this time around, the mind took a step or two back, and watched the whole situation of pain <-> aversion; the “withdrawal of the mind” into “merely observing,” etc. Not only that, as there were other things happening at the same time, e.g. the chiming of the clock, someone sneezing; lizard calling, other sensations, etc., etc., etc. the mind, all of a sudden was able to observe all these happenings in an “automatic mode.” It was also during this experience that the mind “lost itself” to the whole experience, and understood the scenario of cause-and-effect and conditioning (e.g. of pain), as well as the sense of “controller”, as with this experience, the realisation is that there is only cause-and-effect, and there is no one to control or even experience the phenomena. Shortly after this, a sense of fear arose relating to the sense of “no control/controller.”
This was in vast contrast to the “old method” of watching until the pain disappears (and without knowing why). Immediately after this, a thought arose with regard to this experience, where it was comparing and contrasting this experience in the light of these 2 traditions, with the logical flow of “if this is right, that must be wrong, and if that was right, this must be wrong.” However, immediately after this logical thought, another thought/intuition arose saying that the present “understanding” is “right” (and thus the old tradition is/must be “wrong.” (Note: For want of a better choice of words, I’m using “right” and “wrong” in a subjective and relative manner, as this would depend very much on what resonates with the individual. Furthermore, it is also not the intent of this writer to disparage the old tradition, or even claim that it is “wrong” in the “absolute sense”, i.e. if there is such a thing.)
I got up shortly after this, with the sense of fear still prevailing over the mind and body - both stirred and shaken. I tried to do some walking to (hopefully) shake off the fear, but the mental and emotional perturbation were still too strong. I ended up having to speak with SUT later over this, even though it was not the time for interview.
Another advice which struck me as “logical” and “real” is thinking. In the previous method, the approach taken was to “note … note” until the thinking disappears (again without knowing why or how). (Note: In hindsight, I could see the dosa in the mind, as the mind found thinking to be a hindrance.) However, with SUT’s comment that thoughts/thinking is just another object, just as with sound, sensations, etc., etc., etc., the mind was able to quickly sink in to this “truth,” and thereafter, sound, thinking, thoughts, etc, were merely objects of/for the mind, and were no longer obstacles to one’s practice of meditation. This, I would say, is another big difference in approach, and I personally find/realise the practicality and pragmaticality in SUT’s advice.
All in all, I find that the mind is generally more at ease and relaxed (and happier too!) compared to the “old method” of “striving” energetically (mostly out of defilements) - though with the purpose (either as an aim or in the background of the mind) to achieve something, e.g. the insight knowledges. With the SOM method, I find it is easier for the mind to just “let go” and simply observe (or try to observe as much as possible), and try to understand/experience the phenomena. In short, the “non-doing doing” approach.
I am very grateful to Sayadaw for his teachings and guidance. His Dhamma, in the books “Don’t Look Down On Defilements,” “Mindfulness Alone Is Not Enough” strikes a very deep cord in my heart/mind. Sometimes all it takes is just a few words, or a statement or two for the understanding/realisation to just sink into the mind.
On the same note, I am also beholden to Chan Lai Fun and Hor Tuck Loon, for being the “initial dots” in Malaysia, for with this, they have connected us meditators as further dots to/in the SOM tradition.
Instead of saying “Happy Birthday” to Sayadaw (since, this date is just another ‘concept’), I would like to say “May he has more healthy years to guide many and more yogis along the SOM-Dhamma Way!”
Sadhu, Sadhu, Sadhu!
In gratitude:
Law Thim Fook
(Malaysian Yogi)